Living on the Edge: Tease and Denial 101

Do you enjoy being brought to the edge again.. and.. again?

Tease and denial - AKA "orgasm control" or "edging" is the slow and intentional withholding of your release. This is an exhiliarating, ( ..and sometimes hands on!) way I setup an erotic power exchange dynamic. My kinky playmates have described their experiences as "Mistress' dark art of seduction - through restraint!". In our BDSM play session - I will invite you to My erotic dance of building you up.. just to sensually.. or sadistically deny you!

For those in My Harem, erotic frustration can quickly become addictive! A devotional ache for Mistress' absolute control... My text message, sexy photo.. voice.. tone.. eyes.. My exquisite touch. You will soon discover My divine edge play is what you will bow down and kneel for!!

The Psychology Behind Erotic Frustration:

As a high value Mistress, I have learned that psychological dominance opens the door for enhanced power play. I bring this understanding to each of My unique BDSM and fetish sessions. I love tapping into My submissive's twisted mind as it is one of his biggest erogenous zones! Watching My playmate unravel with need, growing desperate.. begging... to please, to worship, to push their limits.. the chemistry is unlike anything else! In these sessions, denial makes the moment of release (or absense of it) feel like a life altering experience! It creates a tension and bond that is felt long after our session ends!

Techniques and Types of Edging:

Basic Edging Practices:

Edging and Orgasm Control: This is when I bring My playmate close to orgasm and then back away. I will repeat this until you are absolutely aching and incoherant with longing! Whether online or in person, I will do this through erotic hypnosis, My commands, a toy (while restrained) or with My perky, wet and lubed up body! (wowza, baby!!!).

Sensory Teasing: This is where I tease you through touch, sight and sound. I will arouse your mind and body... then... pause... to gently caress your inner thigh... or maybe you will be forced to breathe in a whiff of My luxuriously feminine musk.. while I lean in to whisper intructions into your ear. Perhaps, I will be in the mood to place a hood over your head and tie you down to My bed in the process! (Lucky you!)

Verbal Denial and Dirty Talk: You will quiver in anticipation over My words - that drip with control. "Beg harder, you fucking slut".. "If you cum now - you will be punished like the whore you are!".. "But, you haven't earned a cummie yet, sweetheart!". For My submissives that have a soft sport for verbal humilation, My word play elevates this dynamic, along with submissive obedience training and desire all in one! It allows Me to set firm limits with just a phrase!

Chastity and Edging:

Choosing and Using a Chastity Device:

Fit Matters. Custom sized cock cages are marvelous and well worth the cost. Choose body safe materials and make sure the device can be cleaned and removed easily in case of emergency. For more information on Cock Cages, Read My Blog Post, "Lock it Up! Sissy Chastity Part. 1" here: https://www.calisinn.com/post/lock-it-up-sissy-chastity-part-1

Chastity Contracts, Rules and Long Term Denial:

Chastity is a huge turn on for many of My online playmates as well as "in person" submissives. As every player is unique, some rules that I incorporate may include daily check ins, rituals, homework and explicit punishments for disobeying My instructions!

Just look at My submissive's leaky little dick! Only good toys get to cum!!! Hahah!

Consent and Boundaries:

During our session booking, (well before any play begins), I will inquire on your past/ present physical and psychological limits as well as goals. This is where I will be discussing consent and negotiating scene boundaries. I urge you to directly tell Me what turns you on! What, from My decadent Offerings feels good and what feels too intense, (i.e. soft/ hard limits). In My practice, I maintain a down to earth intake dialogue once I receive your booking deposit. I keep this conversation open before, during and after our session. In My experience, I understand that your desires will flow and evolve - just like your limits. What feels good in one session might not be the same itch that you want scratched in our follow up session! I encourage all of My playmates to check in with Me after session and tell Me what they liked, what they would like more of.. and less of. These important details allow Me to craft an experience that is beyond sexy and in alignment with your deepest spiritual kinky self.

Edging and Aftercare:

Within My Harem of kinky submissives and fetishists, orgasm denial can stir up more than just feelings of lust. It can bring core vulnerabilities to the surface. Sometimes there is the emerging of an emotional wound, which can cause a scene to pause, or be discussed during our aftercare time together. Edging can bring up many different emotional states., These can be influenced by your upbringing, social norms and your personal sexual history. A denial scence may be paused due to heavy experiences of shame, frustration or panic. Some feelings that may come up are rejection or abandonment. These are not failures, but an invitation to check in during aftercare. Some aftercare that I enjoy include cuddles, a shared snack or refreshment, shower, debriefing and praising the steamy highlights of our session!

Conclusion:

If you are drawn to edging, orgasm control or tease and denial - do not supress that desire! I urge you to lean into it and play with it! Better yet... let Me play with it!!! You definitely do not need to be a "perfect submissive" to start training in erotic kink play with Me. You just need curiousity and consent. I want you to reach out and book a casual consultation or online session to test the waters with Me! When practiced consensually, tease and denial can create a hot erotic tether.. a bond with your Misress. It is deep psychological intimacy by way of anticipation! Why wait? Book with Me at one of My upcoming February Incalls, you naughty thing!!

My Upcoming Incall Dates:

Surrey: January 30 & 31, Richmond: February 1 & 2, New Westminster: February 5 & 6

Sealed with the kiss of a rose,

Your Fabulous Mistress Cali Sinn, xo